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Partners Task Force for Gay and Lesbian Couples Online from 1995-2022 Demian and Steve Bryant originally founded Partners as a monthly newsletter in 1986. By late 1990 it was reformatted into a bi-monthly magazine. Print publication was halted by 1995 when Demian published Partners as a Web site, which greatly expanded readership. In 1988, the Partners National Survey of Lesbian & Gay Couples report was published; the first major U.S. survey on same-sex couples in a decade. In 1996, Demian produced The Right to Marry, a video documentary based on the dire need for equality that was made clear by the data from the survey mentioned above. The video featured interviews with Rev. Mel White, Evan Wolfson, Phyllis Burke, Richard Mohr, Kevin Cathcart, Faygele benMiriam, Benjamin Cable-McCarthy, Susan Reardon, Frances Fuchs, Tina Podlodowski, and Chelle Mileur. Demian has been the sole operator during the last two decades of Partners. Demian stopped work on Partners Task Force in order to realize his other time-consuming projects, which include publishing the book “Operating Manual for Same-Sex Couples: Navigating the rules, rites & rights” - which is now available on Amazon. The book is based on the Partners Survey mentioned above, his interviews of scores of couples, and 36 years of writing hundreds of articles about same-sex couples. It’s also been informed by his personal experience in a 20-year, same-sex relationship. Demian’s other project is to publish his “Photo Stories by Demian” books based on his more than six decades as a photographer and writer. |
How the AAA Motor Club of Washington Came to Offer 2nd Member Discounts to Domestic Partners by Demian © January 1998, Demian The AAA Motor Club of Washington fought nearly three years before allowing domestic partners a “second member” discount. It had previously only been available to married couples. The Seattle Human Rights Department, operating on a complaint from Demian, made it clear to the club that their refusal was in violation of a city ordinance prohibiting discrimination based on marital status. The Motor Club was finally called to defend their policies in a municipal hearing. They finally agreed to Demian’s request to offer the discount — one day before the hearing date. Some other motor clubs appear to offer discounts to domestic partners. Sometimes getting the discount depends on the mood of the clerk, or, when not applying in person, whether the names are of indiscernible gender. However, the Washington club was the first to put its policy in writing. It is of interest that, when considering this case, the Human Rights Department was unwilling to see it as anti-homosexual discrimination, even though the discount was rendered unavailable to same-sex couples by the marriage restriction. It is also of note that the Department demanded proof of Demian’s relationship — documents for car, housing and finances that where mutually signed — far in excess of anything demanded of married couples, who, after all, don’t even have to live together. Lastly, the pursuit of justice is costly. If the club had responded positively, some might even say ethically, to the law and offered the discount, it would not have cost Demian and the Human Rights Department three years and un-tolled hours on copy machines.
Since reporting on the change of membership qualifications for AAA, many have contacted us reporting uneven responses as to how “spouse” was been interpreted by AAA in various states. Basically, they can interpret it any way they please. Sometimes different clerks in the same office offer different responses. As far as we know, Western Washington AAA is still the only regional office that states explicitly that any household member can have a second membership at the reduced cost. To find out about your status, you need to ask the local AAA office what their policy is, or just go together and sign up — nonchalantly assuming you are eligible for the second member discount.
Once you are a member, you will be bombarded by various offers from AAA, including insurance. When last we checked in 1998, the insurance carrier flatly refuses to offer “family member discounts” to same-sex couples. Return to: Domestic Partnership Benefits page
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