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Partners Task Force for Gay and Lesbian Couples Online from 1995-2022 Demian and Steve Bryant originally founded Partners as a monthly newsletter in 1986. By late 1990 it was reformatted into a bi-monthly magazine. Print publication was halted by 1995 when Demian published Partners as a Web site, which greatly expanded readership. In 1988, the Partners National Survey of Lesbian & Gay Couples report was published; the first major U.S. survey on same-sex couples in a decade. In 1996, Demian produced The Right to Marry, a video documentary based on the dire need for equality that was made clear by the data from the survey mentioned above. The video featured interviews with Rev. Mel White, Evan Wolfson, Phyllis Burke, Richard Mohr, Kevin Cathcart, Faygele benMiriam, Benjamin Cable-McCarthy, Susan Reardon, Frances Fuchs, Tina Podlodowski, and Chelle Mileur. Demian has been the sole operator during the last two decades of Partners. Demian stopped work on Partners Task Force in order to realize his other time-consuming projects, which include publishing the book “Operating Manual for Same-Sex Couples: Navigating the rules, rites & rights” - which is now available on Amazon. The book is based on the Partners Survey mentioned above, his interviews of scores of couples, and 36 years of writing hundreds of articles about same-sex couples. It’s also been informed by his personal experience in a 20-year, same-sex relationship. Demian’s other project is to publish his “Photo Stories by Demian” books based on his more than six decades as a photographer and writer. |
The proposed amendments to the U.S. Constitution:
If an amendment becomes law, it would duplicate part of the 1996 “DoMA” law. Until the DoMA law, the Federal system had never defined who is eligible for legal marriage, that right has always been with the states. The FMA would again place the definition of marriage in the domain of federal law. That shift in governmental power, from the states to the federal government, flies in the face of the right wing’s historical, constant, rallying cry for a smaller, less intrusive government.
Because the amendment is so broadly worded, it could also pave the way for dismantling all other contracts between same- as well for non-married, opposite-sex couples, such as domestic partnership status for workplace benefits, hospital visitations, and Civil Unions. With the phrase “marriage or the legal incidents thereof,” the amendment could destroy a wide range of rights, including state and local civil rights laws prohibiting discrimination based on marital status, protecting elderly couples who refrain from marrying in order to retain pensions, and even laws allowing a person, in the absence of a spouse, to oppose the autopsy of a close friend because of the deceased person’s religious beliefs. The amendment could prohibit states from expanding civil rights. It could have the effect of forbidding states from serving their traditional role as testing grounds for stronger civil rights laws. The only other Constitutional amendment that took American rights — rather than defending our freedoms — was that of the anti-alcohol law of the Prohibition. That was the 18th Amendment, which was ratified in 1919 and repealed 14 years later by the 21st Amendment in 1933. That law, was aimed at a drug. No amendment has ever been introduced that took away rights from an entire class of American citizens. History To amend the Constitution, a bill must be passed by two-thirds of the U.S. House and Senate, as well as being ratified by three-fourths of the state legislatures.
Historically, it has been extremely difficult to pass an amendment. However, anti-marriage laws have already been passed in many state legislatures. And right-wing theocrats continue to paint gay and lesbian citizens as being non-human, and not deserving of equal treatment. The bill was first presented in 2002 by Rep. Bob Schaffer (R-CO) and Rep. Tom Tancredo (R-CO). Rep. Marilyn Musgrave (R-CO), re-introduced the bill on May 21, 2003, which was called H.J. Res. 56, and became known as the “Federal Marriage Amendment” (FMA). As of November 2003, it had 100 co-sponsors. No hearings were held on the measure. On November 25, 2003, an amendment bill was introduced in the Senate by Sen. Wayne Allard (R-Colorado), and four Republican co-sponsors. In the summer of 2004, the amendment failed in the Senate, on a 48-50 vote. However, that vote was not technically on the amendment itself. Rather, it was on a GOP motion to invoke cloture following a Democratic-led filibuster. Now that Republicans have increased their majority, the amendment has collected more support. If all senators vote the way they did in 2004 and the freshmen vote as expected, the 2006 bill will attract 52 votes, which is still well short of the 67 needed to amend the Constitution. First-term Sens. Jim DeMint (R-S.C.), Mel Martinez (R-Fla.), John Thune (R-S.D.) and David Vitter (R-La.) have all co-sponsored the amendment. These four legislators replaced Democrats who voted against the amendment in 2004. Sen. Richard Burr (R-N.C.), who won the seat vacated by Sen. John Edwards (D-N.C.), has also co-sponsored the legislation. Sen. John Kerry (D-Mass.) and Edwards, who opted not to return from the campaign trail to vote on the amendment, are opposed to it. Sen. Barack Obama (D-Ill.) does not support the amendment. He won the seat of retired Sen. Peter Fitzgerald (R-Ill.), who voted for the 2004 amendment. Sen. Ken Salazar (D-Colo.) also plans to vote against the measure. He replaced Sen. Ben Nighthorse Campbell (R-Colo.), one of six Republicans who voted against it in 2004. Right-wing extremists have worked for decades to dismantle the rights of same-sex couples to such rights as job benefits and custody for their children, and have pushed very hard for an anti-marriage Constitutional amendment.
Spurred by the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling in September 2003 that gay and lesbian Americans shouldn’t be thrown in jail simply because of who they are, people like Jerry Falwell, Senate Majority leader Bill Frist (R-Tennessee), and Senator Rick Santorum (R-Pennsylvania have reacted with the terror that Americans might not share their intolerance. They require an amendment to Constitutionally codify their personal, religious beliefs, and deny civil rights and equal benefits to millions of citizens.
This statement assumes equal treatment removes rights from others. It also labels same-sex relationships as sub-human by calling them “counterfeit.”: “Marriage and family are the most important institutions in existence. Unfortunately, they have come under attack. The traditional values Americans hold are being traded in for counterfeit marital unions. It is important to secure this institution and protect it from distortion.”Assuming inferiority based on orientation: “The legalization of same-sex marriages (or ‘civil unions’ or ‘domestic partnerships’) would severely damage the public institution of marriage. It would send a false message that same-sex unions are equivalent to marriage, that same-sex relations and marriage contribute equally to individual and social stability and happiness. It would connote that all sexual relationships deserve the same legal treatment as marriages.”This statement repudiates the American legal system of checks and balances: “The question for the American people is whether we are willing to let the institution of marriage be redefined by a few un-elected, unaccountable judges — or should our strong preference to preserve traditional marriage be respected and defended.”Forces one particular religious vlue system onto civil law: “I am dedicating my talents, time and energies over the next few years to the passage of an amendment to the U.S. Constitution, which will protect the traditional family from its enemies who wish to legalize same-sex marriage and other diverse ‘family’ forms.This thought forces a religion onto American civil law, and creates second-class citizens: I am mindful that we’re all sinners, and I caution those who may try to take the speck out of their neighbor’s eye when they got a log in their own. I think it’s very important for our society to respect each individual, to welcome those with good hearts, to be a welcoming country. On the other hand, that does not mean that somebody like me needs to compromise on an issue such as marriage. And that’s really where the issue is heading here in Washington, and that is the definition of marriage. I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I believe a marriage is between a man and a woman. And I think we ought to codify that one way or the other. And we’ve got lawyers looking at the best way to do that.
Responding to banning same-sex marriage: “How is the recognition that another person is in a caring, loving, committed relationship with a lifetime partner — how does that in any way diminish or undermine or threaten the marriage that another person is in?”Responses to the Pope: “I see the policy of opposing same-sex marriages or unions, whatever you call it, as bigotry or discrimination. We are talking about the law here, and whether the law is going to treat people equally. I don’t see where the church, or anyone else, dictates what the policy is going to be with respect to treating people equally. … The very foundation of the church is about love. This notion of discrimination is so far afield of what Jesus’ life is all about.”Responding to the president: “Faced with bad news on virtually every important policy front — Iraq, North Korea, Liberia, the deficit, unemployment, congressional deadlock on prescription drugs — President Bush has taken the advice of his chief advisor, Mr. Rove, and tried to change the subject, even though it means repudiating a position taken by vice presidential candidate Dick Cheney at the height of the presidential campaign.
Often, the Bible is invoked to support a particular viewpoint, at the same time, other parts of the Bible are ignored. For instance, how many theocrats subscribe to the following biblical laws?
Lately, there has been a lot of Web-based petitions, surveys, and polls on this issue. They are not considered scientific data-collecting methods, and are usually not taken seriously by social scientists or politicians. A major reason for this is that the participants cannot be verified as valid individuals. Web petitions simply do not meet the barest of scientific replication standards. Politicians usually rely on direct communication, such as letters, from constituents, as well as on polls managed by professionals who use telephone and other personal interview techniques. Internet surveys and petitions are usually designed with the goal of bringing traffic to their owner’s Web site, in order to sell ad space. Because of these reasons, we encourage the writing of letters to our congressional representatives, rather than try to stuff the Web site survey boxes. And, because of the current germ paranoia, a fax or e-mail may be better than sending an envelope. Please see our article of genuine, non-Web surveys: Legal Marriage Surveys in the U.S.
We would strongly recommend you write, fax, or e-mail directly to your state and federal representatives and senators. Tell them you support equal treatment for all citizens, regardless of orientation, and that includes creating anti-discrimination laws and full civil marriage equality.
Our article on former Republican president G. W. Bush’s demands for an anti-gay Constitutional amendment: “Constitutional Constriction”
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