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Demian and Steve Bryant originally founded Partners as a monthly newsletter in 1986. By late 1990 it was reformatted into a bi-monthly magazine. Print publication was halted by 1995 when Demian published Partners as a Web site, which greatly expanded readership.

In 1988, the Partners National Survey of Lesbian & Gay Couples report was published; the first major U.S. survey on same-sex couples in a decade.

In 1996, Demian produced The Right to Marry, a video documentary based on the dire need for equality that was made clear by the data from the survey mentioned above. The video featured interviews with Rev. Mel White, Evan Wolfson, Phyllis Burke, Richard Mohr, Kevin Cathcart, Faygele benMiriam, Benjamin Cable-McCarthy, Susan Reardon, Frances Fuchs, Tina Podlodowski, and Chelle Mileur.

Demian has been the sole operator during the last two decades of Partners.

Demian stopped work on Partners Task Force in order to realize his other time-consuming projects, which include publishing the book “Operating Manual for Same-Sex Couples: Navigating the rules, rites & rights” - which is now available on Amazon. The book is based on the Partners Survey mentioned above, his interviews of scores of couples, and 36 years of writing hundreds of articles about same-sex couples. It’s also been informed by his personal experience in a 20-year, same-sex relationship.

Demian’s other project is to publish his “Photo Stories by Demian” books based on his more than six decades as a photographer and writer.


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Freedom and Unity
in the Green Mountain State
by Vermont Rep. Dean Corren
January 31, 2000


The issue of equal marriage rights for same-sex couples has been actively discussed in Vermont throughout the 1990s. A number of private and public employers began extending benefits to domestic partners during this period, and general domestic partnership legislation was introduced in the 1993-1994 session. In 1995, the extension of such benefits by Vermont’s largest city, Burlington, became the central issue in an intense mayoral race.

Filed in 1997 by three same-sex couples, Baker v. State came to a final ruling by the Vermont Supreme Court in December, 1999. The Court found that Vermont’s law did prevent same-sex couples from marrying, and was an unconstitutional denial of civil rights under Vermont’s Common Benefits clause. The court wrote, “none of the interests asserted by the State provides a reasonable and just basis for the continued exclusion of same-sex couples from the benefits incident to a civil marriage license under Vermont law.”

For many of us, it was a great day for equal rights, and a proud day to be a Vermonter. To our great disappointment however, the Court stayed the effect of its decision, failing to give same-sex couples any relief other than asking the legislature for remedial action. In her concurring and dissenting opinion, Justice Denise Johnson wrote that it is “the duty of courts to provide prompt relief for violations of individual civil rights.”

With the Baker decision, it was clear that we have moved far beyond the time when a mere domestic partnership system could be considered sufficient for either human needs, or the Constitutional mandate.

Besides the fact that any domestic partnership scheme can, at best, be a poor substitute for marriage — once the range of state, federal, and international benefits are considered — it would be an indignity, now that a right to equal treatment has been established by the state’s highest authority. It would be like Rosa Parks being satisfied with a law allowing her to sit in the middle of the bus.

Even though the Court appeared to allow for the possibility of a parallel track to marriage, “separate but equal” is never equal. Among the many benefits granted opposite-sex couples by the state is the beneficial title, ‘married.’ The Court’s own analysis requires this intangible benefit to be equally available to all couples, a term which requires a legal marriage license. Just as the Court found when invalidating the current law, the state has no valid interest in restricting the benefits of marriage exclusively to opposite-sex couples. The only reason now to make a separate parallel system is the maintenance of bigotry. What Chief Justice Warren wrote in the Brown v. Board of Education (1954) decision striking down “separate but equal” schools, applies equally to same-sex couples, since the VT Court found no legitimate basis for a separate classification:

“Segregation of white and colored children in public schools has a detrimental effect upon the colored children. The impact is greater when it has the sanction of law; for the policy of separating the races is usually interpreted as denoting the inferiority of the Negro group. … We conclude that in the field of public education the doctrine of ‘separate but equal’ has no place. Separate educational facilities are inherently unequal.”

Failure to afford same-sex couples the same rights as all others serves only to perpetuate the intentional denoting of such couples as inferior. A separate quasi-marriage is inherently unequal and has no place under Vermont’s Constitution. Vermont was first state to outlaw slavery, and should resolve to be first against anti-gay bigotry.


Positive Steps

In January, 2000 I introduced the “Freedom to Marry” bill (H.694) with tripartisan sponsorship (2 Progressives, 2 Democrats, and 2 Republicans). The bill simply removes restrictions — based on biological sex — placed on one’s ability to marry the person of one’s choice. It also explicitly states that Vermont will recognize a marriage without regard to the sex of the partners.

We wanted to show how relatively simple it is to align the law with our common sense, basic human fairness, and the Vermont Constitution. We hope this is decision the House Judiciary Committee will make, once it studies the Baker case, federal cases involving the fundamental right to marry, and federal cases resolving that separate is never equal. In fact, it was inspiring drafting the remedy for what may be the last great instance of legal discrimination based solely on bigotry.

Despite a mostly hostile press and an oppressively powerful Catholic Church — which has received more attention than the many religious leaders who support equal rights — there is a growing momentum for genuine equal treatment, and a realization that domestic partnership status will not work. Dozens of lesbian and gay couples, and clergy of various faiths have given moving testimony at the public hearings. The House Judiciary Committee is doing a thorough job of hearing the issue, and the advocates and their representatives are doing a great job.

Unfortunately, the leadership of both major parties initially declared that there is a “consensus” for a domestic partnership bill. This is still largely what the press is reporting, despite the fact that if the public input has shown anything, it is that domestic partnership will satisfy almost no one. The Governor, who for years refused to state his position prior to the Court decision, said, at the start of the session, that the idea of same-sex marriage “makes me uncomfortable, the same as anybody else.” Many people where just as uncomfortable with the idea of allowing interracial marriage when it was mandated by the Supreme Court in Loving v. Virginia (1969).

So, even though we are confident that equal rights will ultimately prevail, just as with racial segregation, which took decades of public and court action — even after “separate but equal” was struck down — it may take several more years to achieve equality.


Rep. Dean Corren
92 Brookes Ave., Burlington VT 05401
statehouse: 800-322-5616; home: 802-864-9916; fax: 419-710-8546
dcorren@leg.state.vt.us
www.progressiveparty.org

Vermonters can help by contacting their legislators with the gentle message that they support everyone having the right to marry. Others can support the Vermonters who have organized to fight for their rights, and ultimately everyone’s rights.
Click here to see:
The Vermont Court Finding
Rep. Corren’s pro-marriage Bill #H-694


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