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Partners Task Force for Gay and Lesbian Couples
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Demian and Steve Bryant originally founded Partners as a monthly newsletter in 1986. By late 1990 it was reformatted into a bi-monthly magazine. Print publication was halted by 1995 when Demian published Partners as a Web site, which greatly expanded readership.

In 1988, the Partners National Survey of Lesbian & Gay Couples report was published; the first major U.S. survey on same-sex couples in a decade.

In 1996, Demian produced The Right to Marry, a video documentary based on the dire need for equality that was made clear by the data from the survey mentioned above. The video featured interviews with Rev. Mel White, Evan Wolfson, Phyllis Burke, Richard Mohr, Kevin Cathcart, Faygele benMiriam, Benjamin Cable-McCarthy, Susan Reardon, Frances Fuchs, Tina Podlodowski, and Chelle Mileur.

Demian has been the sole operator during the last two decades of Partners.

Demian stopped work on Partners Task Force in order to realize his other time-consuming projects, which include publishing the book “Operating Manual for Same-Sex Couples: Navigating the rules, rites & rights” - which is now available on Amazon. The book is based on the Partners Survey mentioned above, his interviews of scores of couples, and 36 years of writing hundreds of articles about same-sex couples. It’s also been informed by his personal experience in a 20-year, same-sex relationship.

Demian’s other project is to publish his “Photo Stories by Demian” books based on his more than six decades as a photographer and writer.


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Out-of-print books may be found at used book stores or libraries. Availability and costs change often, so it’s best to contact distributors before ordering.

Books
Booklets
Articles

—— Books ——

Creating Civil Unions: Opening hearts and minds
by Linda Hollingdale (2002), $23, Common Humanity Press, Box 123, Hinesburg, VT 05461; 802-482-4600.
Nice photographs and interviews of major players and participants in the struggle for legal marriage and Civil Unions in Vermont. Personal views from real people in an attractively designed book. Puts a very human face and adds meaning to the over-used phrase “family values.”


Estate Planning for Same-Sex Couples
by Joan M. Burda (2004), $59 (General Practice Solo & Small Firm Section Member $45), Paperback and CD-Rom $99.95 (General Practice Solo & Small Firm Section Member $89.95), American Bar Association Books, 321 North Clark St., Chicago, IL 60610.
A concise, thorough description of the U.S. gay and lesbian population demographic, and the particular legal issues this demographic is likely to encounter. There are many sample contractual forms, as well as a chapter on finding and marketing to this population.


Equality Practice: Civil Unions and the future of gay rights
by William N. Eskridge, Jr. (2002), $?, Routledge, 29 West 35th St., New York, NY 10001.
A political, historical and sociological look at citizen inequality in the U.S.


A Manager’s guide to Sexual Orientation in the Workplace by Bob Powers and Alan Ellis (1995), $?, Routledge, 29 West 35th St., New York, NY 10001.
Modeling inclusiveness and its impact on productivity. Little directly on job benefits, however, rich in supportive philosophy.


Pride at Work: Organizing for lesbian and gay rights
by Miriam Frank and Desma Holcomb (1990), $5 +$1 p&h, $3 ea./ten or more copies, Lesbian and Gay Labor Network, Box 1159, Peter Stuyvesant Stn., New York NY 10009.
How to secure partner benefits, other advances in union settings.


Straight Talk About Gays in the Workplace: Creating an inclusive, productive environment for everyone in your organization
by Liz Winfeld and Susan Spielman (1995), $21.95, American Management Association, 135 West 50th St., New York, NY 10020.
Highly informative. Chapter on domestic partner benefits.


Will You Be Mine?
by Diane Whitacre (1992), $19.95, Crooked Street Press, 2154 Taylor St., San Francisco, CA 94133; 415-931-3990.
History of the San Francisco domestic partnership ordinance (effective Feb. 14, 1991); interviews 41 same-sex and four heterosexual couples about their relationships.

—— Booklets ——

Approaching 2000: Meeting the challenges to San Francisco’s families: The final report of the mayor’s task force on family policy
(June 13, 1990), Human Rights Commission, City and County of San Francisco, 1170 Market St., #500, San Francisco, CA 94102-4908; 415-252-2500.


The BNA Special Report Series on Work & Family, #38: Recognizing non-traditional families
February 1991 (ISBN 1-55871-212-7), $40, 32-pg, BNA PLUS, The Bureau of National Affairs, Inc., 9435 Key West Ave. Walkville, MD 20850; 800-372-1033.
Well-researched domestic partner benefit report.


District of Columbia Commission on Domestic Partnership Benefits for D.C. Government Employees; Final report and recommendations
(July 1990), D.C. Office of Personnel, 613 G St., N.W., #414, Washington, DC 20001.


Domestic Partnerships: Legal strategies for the 90s
(1989), $30 (Washington residents add $2.43), supplies limited, Northwest Women’s Law Center, 119 South Main St., #330, Seattle, WA98104, 206-682-9552.
For lawyers; 200-page collection based, in part, on Washington law.


Domestic Partnership Legislative Briefing Packet
(1991), $5, Dept. of Public Education, ACLU, 132 W. 43rd St., New York, NY 10036.
Basic information, resources and model ordinance.


Domestic Partnership Organizing Manual
(June 1 1999), free PDF download, National Gay & Lesbian Task Force Policy Institute, 1734 - 14th St., N.W., Washington, DC 20009-4309; ngltf@ngltf.org, 202-332-6483.
Definitions, employer lists that cover domestic partners, resources, descriptions of key court cases affecting the rights of domestic partners, and sample policies. Explains arguments for and against these benefits.
        Download: thetaskforce.org/reports_and_research/dp_manual


Domestic Partnership Packet
(1993), $15, Lambda Legal Defence and Education Fund, 120 Wall St., #1500, New York, NY 10005; 212-995-8585.
Summaries, highlights, analysis, and sample legislation.


Family Diversity Project publications
$15 donation per document. Checks to: Spectrum Institute, Box 65756, Los Angeles, CA 90065; 213-258-8955 or fax 213-258-8099:
Amicus Curiae Brief: Family Service America et al. (1989); as filed in the landmark Braschi case; definition of family in U.S. law.
Legal Syllabus: Rights of Domestic Partners (1989); outline for law school seminar.
Registration of Families with the Secretary of State (1992); procedure for Calif.
Report of California’s Joint Select Task Force on the Changing Family (1989); extensive proposals to protect and benefit domestic partners.
Report of Los Angeles Consumer Task Force on Marital Status Discrimination (1990); reform recommendations.
Strengthening Families: A model for community action, Final Report of the Task Force on Family Diversity, City of Los Angeles (1988); substantial references to lesbian and gay families.

LGBT Campus Organizing: A comprehensive manual
(January 01, 1996) free PDF download, from the National LGBTQ Task Force,
1325 Massachusetts Ave. NW, #600, Washington, DC 20005, 202-393-5177; fax 202-393-2241; thetaskforce@thetaskforce.org.
Stunningly detailed report and guide with a chapter on domestic partner benefits.
        Download: thetaskforce.org/reports_and_research/campus_manual


Recognizing Lesbian and Gay Families: Strategies for obtaining domestic partner benefits
(1992), $15, National Center for Lesbian Rights, 870 Market St., #570, San Francisco, CA 94102-3012; 415-621-0674.


Understanding the Domestic Partner Dilemma: Perspectives of employer and insurer
by Elizabeth Murphy. (Second edition 1993). City of West Hollywood, 8611 Santa Monica Blvd., West Hollywood, CA 90069; 310-854-7400.

—— Articles ——

“Domestic Partner Benefits: Employer Considerations”
(4th Quarter 1994 of Employee Benefits Practices), $10, 12-pg., International Foundation of Employee Benefit Plans, Box 69, Brookfield, WI 53008-0069; 414-786-6700.


“Domestic partner benefits in the media industry”
$2, 8-pg., National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association, Box 423048, San Francisco, CA 94142-3048.


“Domestic Partner Benefits — Philosophy and Provider List”
continuously updated Web site: buddybuddy.com — Partners Task Force, Seattle, WA; 206-935-1206; demian@buddybuddy.com.
Lists all the benefits-offering employers and city registrations, plus a sample affidavit and an “how to” article on gaining workplace benefits.


“Model policy for domestic partnership health insurance”
Hollywood Supports, 8455 Beverly Hills Blvd., #305, Los Angeles, CA 90048; 213-655-7705.


“Unmarried … with Benefits”
December 1991, Personnel Journal; reprint information, 714-751-1883.

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