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Demian and Steve Bryant originally founded Partners as a monthly newsletter in 1986. By late 1990 it was reformatted into a bi-monthly magazine. Print publication was halted by 1995 when Demian published Partners as a Web site, which greatly expanded readership.

In 1988, the Partners National Survey of Lesbian & Gay Couples report was published; the first major U.S. survey on same-sex couples in a decade.

In 1996, Demian produced The Right to Marry, a video documentary based on the dire need for equality that was made clear by the data from the survey mentioned above. The video featured interviews with Rev. Mel White, Evan Wolfson, Phyllis Burke, Richard Mohr, Kevin Cathcart, Faygele benMiriam, Benjamin Cable-McCarthy, Susan Reardon, Frances Fuchs, Tina Podlodowski, and Chelle Mileur.

Demian has been the sole operator during the last two decades of Partners.

Demian stopped work on Partners Task Force in order to realize his other time-consuming projects, which include publishing the book “Operating Manual for Same-Sex Couples: Navigating the rules, rites & rights” - which is now available on Amazon. The book is based on the Partners Survey mentioned above, his interviews of scores of couples, and 36 years of writing hundreds of articles about same-sex couples. It’s also been informed by his personal experience in a 20-year, same-sex relationship.

Demian’s other project is to publish his “Photo Stories by Demian” books based on his more than six decades as a photographer and writer.


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Out-of-print books may be found at used book stores or libraries. Availability and costs change often, so it’s best to contact distributors before ordering.

Books
Book Sales
Periodicals

For videos on parenting, please see our article: Media Resources: Videos

—— Books ——
Considering Parenthood: A handbook for lesbians
by Cheri Pies (1985)
$9.95 +$1.50 p&h, Spinsters Book Co., Box 410687, San Francisco, CA 94141.
Deciding whether, how to become a parent; much applies to gay men.


Co-parents Rights Packet
(1992)
$15, Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund, 120 Wall St., #1500, New York, NY 10005
212-995-8585
Amicus briefs, bibliographies of law review articles and existing cases.


Custody/Visitation Packet
(1992)
$15, Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund, 120 Wall St., #1500, New York, NY 10005
212-995-8585.
Amicus briefs, psychological articles, bibliography of law review articles, list of cases and laws on custody and visitation and sexual orientation.


Different Daughters: A Book by Mothers of Lesbians
edited by Louise Rafkin (1987)
$9.95, Cleis Press, PO Box 14684, SF, CA 94114
800-780-2279; cleis@cleispress.com
Accounts of 25 mothers; text on family, community, religion and neighborhoods.


Different Mothers: Sons and daughters of lesbians talk about their lives
edited by Louise Rafkin (1990)
$9.95, OUT OF PRINT, Cleis Press, PO Box 14684, SF, CA 94114
800-780-2279; cleis@cleispress.com
Accounts of 38 children; some talk about mother’s partner.


The Family Next Door
edited by Lisa Orta & Karen Rust (bimonthly newsletter)
$50/year, Next Door Publishing, Box 21580, Oakland, CA 94620
510-482-5778
Focus on lesbian and gay parents.


Family Values: Two moms and their son
by Phyllis Burke (1993)
$21, Random House, 201 E. 15th St., New York, NY 10022.
Warm and political autobiographical novel.


For Lesbian Parents: Your guide to helping your family grow up happy, healthy, and proud
by Suzanne M. Johnson, PhD & Elizabeth O’Conner, PhD (2001)
$16.95, Guilford Press, 72 Spring St., New York, NY 10012
Packed with very useful information, suggestions, and resources. Any sensible child would want these authors for parents.


Gay & Lesbian Parents
edited by Frederick W. Bozett, RN DNS (1987)
$16.95/38.95 soft/hard, Praeger Publishers, Box 5007, Westport CT 06881.
Includes information on gay and lesbian step-parent families.


Gay Parenting: A complete guide for gay men and lesbians with children
by Joy Schulenburg (1985)
OUT OF PRINT, Anchor Press/Doubleday, Garden City, NY.
Includes couples with children. Based on survey, interviews, personal experience.


Getting Simon: Two gay doctors’ journey to fatherhood
by Kenneth B. Morgan (1995)
$14.95, Bramble Books, 8 Route 212, Bearsville, NY 12409
914-679-4158
A journal on the extraordinary efforts a same-sex couple must make, and emotional costs they must pay, to adopt. Contains an application and contract for a surrogate mother and a birth plan.


Heather Has Two Mommies
by Lesléa Newman, illustrations by Diana Souza (1989)
$7.95 +$1 p&h, Alyson Wonderland, 40 Plympton St., Boston, MA 02118
800-825-9766
Explains alternative fertilization and alternative families to young children.


Jenny Lives With Eric and Martin
by Susanne Bösche, photos by Andreas Hansen (1983)
OUT OF PRINT, Gay Men’s Press, London.
For 8-12 year olds; a day in the life of a young girl, her gay father and his lover.


Lesbian & Gay Parenting Handbook: Creating and raising our families
by April Martin, Ph.D. (1993)
$15, Harper Collins 10 East 53rd St., New York, NY 10022.
A complete guide; includes many examples of couples.


Politics of the Heart: A lesbian parenting anthology
edited by Sandra Pollack & Jeanne Vaughn (1987)
$11.95 + $1.75 p&h, Firebrand, 141 The Commons, Ithaca, NY 14850
607-272-0000
Covers co-parenting, the “other” mother, legal challenges.


Whose Child Cries: Children of gay parents talk about their lives
by Joe Gantz (1983), OUT OF PRINT, Jalmar Press, CA.
Accounts of children, their gay parents, parent’s lovers. Emphasizes challenges.

—— Book Sales ——
My Family!
Offers many books, DVDs, and music CDs which feature interracial, multi-ethnic and same-sex parents
Dodi Press LLC, PO Box 144, Sicklerville, NJ 08081
856-677-8044; info@myfamilyproducts.net
“It’s our mission that the array of multi-cultural products we offer can be used to give children of same-sex parents a sense of normalcy, while promoting the celebration of our differences and the importance of family values. We also strive to educate children and reinforce the morality already taught in the home.”

—— Periodicals ——
Gay Parent Magazine
Box 750852, Forest Hills, NY 11375-0852
718-793-6641; info@gayparentmag.com
“Resource for lesbians and gay men who are, or wish to be parents.” Gay Parent offers articles and resources.

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