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Online from 1995-2022

Demian and Steve Bryant originally founded Partners as a monthly newsletter in 1986. By late 1990 it was reformatted into a bi-monthly magazine. Print publication was halted by 1995 when Demian published Partners as a Web site, which greatly expanded readership.

In 1988, the Partners National Survey of Lesbian & Gay Couples report was published; the first major U.S. survey on same-sex couples in a decade.

In 1996, Demian produced The Right to Marry, a video documentary based on the dire need for equality that was made clear by the data from the survey mentioned above. The video featured interviews with Rev. Mel White, Evan Wolfson, Phyllis Burke, Richard Mohr, Kevin Cathcart, Faygele benMiriam, Benjamin Cable-McCarthy, Susan Reardon, Frances Fuchs, Tina Podlodowski, and Chelle Mileur.

Demian has been the sole operator during the last two decades of Partners.

Demian stopped work on Partners Task Force in order to realize his other time-consuming projects, which include publishing the book “Operating Manual for Same-Sex Couples: Navigating the rules, rites & rights” - which is now available on Amazon. The book is based on the Partners Survey mentioned above, his interviews of scores of couples, and 36 years of writing hundreds of articles about same-sex couples. It’s also been informed by his personal experience in a 20-year, same-sex relationship.

Demian’s other project is to publish his “Photo Stories by Demian” books based on his more than six decades as a photographer and writer.


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What You Can Do About Domestic Violence
by Demian
© January 1999, Demian



No relationship is immune from domestic violence, whether physical, psychological or sexual. If a pattern of abuse develops between you and your partner, there are ways of stopping it.

If you are a victim of abuse:
  • Remember, nothing you do gives permission for another person to assault you.
  • Take the problem seriously. It could happen again.
  • Seek assistance from a counselor or domestic violence program in your community.

If you are being battered:

  • Get yourself (and your children) to a safe place.
  • Get medical attention, if necessary.
  • Call the police, a local shelter program, or a crisis telephone counseling service.

If you are violent toward your partner:

  • Seek counseling help to plan alternatives to violence.
  • If you are abusive when drunk, remember that alcohol is not a reason or excuse for violence; it is only another part of the pattern of abuse.

If you know someone who is being abused:

  • Listen and believe that it hurts.
  • Offer support for the people involved, but don’t support or excuse the violence.
  • Encourage both partners to contact a local hotline, shelter or other community service.

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